If you have been following the news and or various social media platforms, I’m pretty sure you have encountered the Stanford Rapist. To those who haven’t heard of the Stanford Rapist case, I’ll quickly break it down for you.
The Stanford Rapist goes by the name Brock Turner, a freshman at Stanford University, who raped an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. Luckily, he got caught. The terrifying thing is though, that he only got a mere sentence of six months and about three years on probation. This has caused an uproar. And it shows how despicable and disgusting rape culture is with all of its factors. The father of Brock Turner wrote a letter to the judge, dismissing his son’s severe crime and just calling it ’20 minutes of action’.
As I read the letter the father had written, my insides coiled and I was not only feeling incredibly sick but also fuming. Not only had the father tried to depict his son as the ‘true victim’ of so-called ‘drinking culture’ but also made a jab at girls who drink and like to party.
Not only did the Father of the rapist, have the nerve in writing an insensitive, downright sexist and gut clenching letter, but Leslie Rasmussen a friend of the rapist also thought it would be great to vocalize her opinion.
“I don’t think it’s fair to base the fate of the next ten + years of his life on the decision of a girl who doesn’t remember anything but the amount she drank to press charges against him. I am not blaming her directly for this, because that isn’t right. But where do we draw the line and stop worrying about being politically correct every second of the day and see that rape on campuses isn’t always because people are rapists.
This is completely different from a woman getting kidnapped and raped as she is walking to her car in a parking lot. That is a rapist. These are not rapists. These are idiot boys and girls having too much to drink and not being aware of their surroundings and having clouded judgement.”
Just.let.that.sink.in
I am bewildered at the stupidity of these people. Rape is rape. No matter if the victim was unconscious, conscious, kidnapped or not. The trauma will always be there and it will follow the victim everywhere they go, as long as they live. I do not believe that alcohol makes people turn into rapists. I believe that deep down, they had that mindset from the beginning. The mindset that they could just ‘take what they want’. That they are entitled to do as they please and no one can tell them ‘no’. Brock Turner is not the victim, he is a rapist and fully deserves six years in prison. Nothing less.
The whole case is reeking of rape culture. Personally, I’ve encountered rape culture first hand. Just like most women have. It begins at worrying if anything will happen to you when you decide to walk home rather than take a taxi. It begins when we start worrying if the dress is too much, too short, too revealing- if it could attract unwanted attention. Feeling nervous while walking down the street and being catcalled by utter strangers. Plus what could happen if you tell them to shut the fuck up? They could turn out to be way more trouble than before. So we keep quiet.
Rape culture is when people say I shouldn’t lead men on, that my no is irrelevant and I shouldn’t be surprised if I get raped when I deny a man sex. Especially, if I’ve let him come home with me, especially if I am with him in bed and decide I do not want to have sex with him.
Rape culture is when I am too afraid and lie to myself, that what he did to me in his angry fit, is okay. That he didn’t mean it. That it was my fault and I am guilty. The fact that he ignored my pain and me saying it hurts, speaks for itself. It was not with my consent. It takes courage to speak about it, it takes a lot of courage and strength to be honest. So why should women lie about rape?
No more questions about what the victim was wearing, drinking or if she/he has a promiscuous lifestyle.
End Rape Culture. Teach boys not to rape! Teach them to respect women. No means no. We are all equal, nobody deserves, nobody asked for rape.